I Can’t Even ~Dare Not Come Forward, Anytime. Abuse In America

With the Supreme Court Nomination hearings the hypocrisy of the white male privilege reality of this country once again comes into full ugly view. We gasp a woman or girl was stoned to death in a far away country, but how many women could tell how their lives were ruined for telling.

Oh, I would love to tell all. For this abuser, he has a daughter and I am concerned it would hurt her. To this day I wonder if… she… also… I always worried could I have been believed all those years ago, more than 50, if he did this to others maybe he could have been stopped.

Oh I was so sorry I told. I was slapped in the face by a matriarch for my trouble. And that was just the beginning, soon I had to move, soon with a whispered label, like an exile.

Rights? Freedoms? None for me, in some ways my life was forever ruined. Our society, so shocked at that culture so far away that would stone a woman to death or other horrors but are survivors any better off here, much of the time – look how this woman is being treated

I say, from the torment I lived at times, over being touched and dirtied with that man’s evil,  I have wondered if it would have been more merciful had I been stoned to death.

Lost contact, to some degree, with much of my family for long periods of time, and some still to this day. A couple people have died and we never reconciled.

But he is alive.

The question and statement that I most disliked today was when the Arizona (add name) Prosecutor asked about other events that could have contributed to the lady’s PTSD.

The lady answered, citing any biological predisposition that she might have in her family… DNA

Since my work world has centered around DNA for genealogy and as the industry has added DNA for medical and DNA for everything else these last years, wine you like, design of a personal painting or scarf of your DNA, etc. to hear this lady say this made me think of the old time defense by men to dominate women – the hysterical female.

Whose fault is it that men are tempted and although our Western culture tries to take this society to a place of higher civility in its face to the world, inside we have this failure to protect women even though they are thrown out into the world at large in a very open way from a very young age.

I was not predisposed to hysterics, I did not imagine any of it – and i still do not know how to face it at times. To this day, at times, I get chills of an overwhelming fear.

I saw a photo of him at a large gathering of people, he had a little girl sitting in his lap.

There is no way to describe the wash of shaking and nausea.

He is still alive

 

 

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